One of my best friends, Allie, is getting married this weekend! I can’t believe the day is finally here – I think we texted each other every single day last December wondering if today would be the day that Raven popped the question. Kevin and I always have the best time with Allie and Raven, usually thanks to lots of cheese, wine, some serious laughs, and plenty of bathroom humor. So I have no doubt that this weekend will be amazing – wine, cheese, and all. I’m also honored to be one of Allie’s bridesmaids! This is my first time as a bridesmaid and I’m so happy to be a part of their incredible day.
That being said, one of the first decisions I made about our wedding was not to have bridesmaids. I get easily stressed out by other people’s drama and way too consumed about everyone’s opinion. Not that I don’t value other’s opinions, but for our wedding, I want it to be truly what Kevin and I envision, not something else that we felt guilted or pressured into. Also planning-wise – dresses, flowers, photos, etc. – it’s a lot easier with fewer people involved.
Every now and then I wonder if I’ll regret not having a bridal party. Who will be at the rehearsal dinner? Who else will be in our pictures? Will I want more people to get ready with? But I think we’ll find ways to keep our friends involved without the bridal party title (i.e. having a larger rehearsal dinner, welcome drinks the night before). On the plus side, that means more time for pictures of just the two of us 😉
I’ve gotten a few mixed reactions when I tell people I’m not having a bridal party, mostly from people who have more traditional views on weddings. But I’ve learned throughout the wedding planning process, that everyone has an opinion about everything when it comes to weddings. Ultimately it’s the couple’s day, so you gotta do what feels right to you, bridesmaids or not.
And with that, I’m out to celebrate two of my most favorite people! Love you, A & R!